Does this sound familiar?

You've been seen as the responsible and reliable one, the caretaker.  You've been working hard to establish yourself and find that the harder you work the farther away you've gotten from what matters to you.  Or you are kept up at night by thoughts of "did I do enough", "what will tomorrow bring" or "did I do everything perfectly".  

Imagine Becca, she's a young tech professional and getting started in her career.  She perpetually feels she needs to put her nose to the grindstone.  She feels extroverted at work and introverted at home because she needs time to be alone.  But she's lonely because she see's herself as not being connected to others. She feels unhappy and questions herself..."I shouldn't feel this way, things are good".
Or imagine Nick.  They spend long hours working in order to avoid down time.  Their partner has asked them to slow down and go on vacation, but Nick can't seem to make a plan to stop.  They're afraid to stop.  And they can't shut off  the faint nagging voice in their head that is on repeat "you need to work more, there is no space for being bored" and "what's this all for anyway?"

I work with adults who find themselves struggling with life being harder than they expected it to be.  This often is accompanied by feeling lost, confused or discouraged.  You might think your success doesn't match how you feel internally and there is an unclenching guilt that drives you to work harder.  But working harder doesn't get you closer to what matters to you-it just clouds things up more.   

Therapy with me helps you to learn about what contributes to you feeling the way you do, helps you recognize and change ineffective patterns, and helps you move towards feeling closer to others while also honoring your own personal limits and values.

I implement effective evidenced based methods to instill self-understanding among clients and encourage them to adopt new attitudes and feelings towards life situations. It is essential to keep in mind that therapy is not a magic pill or a quick fix: therapy is a process that necessitates participation and investment from the client and caretaker alike. But in the end, making small changes to self-defeating behavior and coping with feelings of sadness, boredom, fear, and pain can bring life-altering results.